We all know that becoming present, taking time to go within, and inviting stillness into our lives is resourcing for us.
The more stillness we can experience, the closer we are to our true Self - our inner guide and connection to our Source.
When we remain still within, the answers to our more profound questions, the meaning of life that we seek, and our desire to fulfill the purpose we were created for are all made clear to us.
And yet, most of us avoid stillness. There are several reasons for this.
The hallmark of trauma is that it disconnects us from ourselves because what we experienced was too much for us to endure. The intelligence of our body which is wired to survive cuts us off from our body and our emotions so that we didn't feel overwhelmed by our experience. Subconsciously we fear that by becoming still, we would allow all that we shut out - all the emotions we repressed and suppressed, to come to the surface. Deep down we fear facing all that we have tucked away into the shadows!
This is a protective move and a wise one from the survival point of view AND also one that keeps us from experiencing the connection to ourselves and to others as well as to our spirit - our true Self!
Another reason we avoid stillness is that we live in cultures where being busy and on the go are seen as signs of success. Making time for stillness may not seem productive to us. Many of us even “do” meditation as a task rather than a way of “being.”
I say all this because I was one such person! For years, I prided myself on my busyness and ability to multitask. As a mother of young children, I did have to juggle many balls, some of it was necessary. However, some of it was self-imposed.
As I worked through my past over the years to heal, I realized that I was busy not only because of the social conditioning we all go through but also because it felt safe!
The truth is that when we start connecting to our true Self by becoming still, life takes on a new meaning. We start actualizing our desires and connecting with who we are meant to be - a realized soul!
At the same time, we must honor the wisdom of our body and the way it protects us while also finding the way back to our wholeness. This requires gentle practices and small ways of inviting stillness which we can expand over time so that we don't trigger our trauma responses or survival patterns - and is best done with the guidance of an experienced trauma-sensitive embodiment practitioner.
In my own practice towards stillness, I can honestly tell you that many of life’s mysteries have been revealed to me along the way, I have learned who I truly am, what I need and desire, and what I am here to do. And all of this has led to greater clarity and better communication in my relationships. Most importantly, it has brought me peace as I have accepted and integrated my past and found the joy that comes from being present in life’s wonders. This is what I hope for you as well!
P.S. If you are tired of hustling and working yourself to the bone, and you are just feeling exhausted all the time. If you would like to learn how to get off the hamster wheel so that you can engage with life with more stillness and aliveness without triggering your past trauma
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